he can turn from Sherlock to Benedict in like 1 second
Benedict Cumberbatch reads “All the World’s a Stage” from Shakespeare’s As You Like It
All the world’s a stage,
And all the men and women merely players:
They have their exits and their entrances;
And one man in his time plays many parts,
At first the infant,
Mewling and puking in the nurse’s arms.
And then the whining school-boy, with his satchel
And shining morning face. And then the lover,
Sighing like furnace, with a woeful ballad.
Then a soldier,
Full of strange oaths and bearded like the pard,
Seeking the bubble reputation
Even in the cannon’s mouth. And then the justice,
In fair round belly with good capon lined,
Full of wise saws and modern instances;
The sixth age shifts
Into the lean and slipper’d pantaloon,
With spectacles on nose and pouch on side,
His youthful hose, well saved, a world so wide
he can turn from Sherlock to Benedict in like 1 second
Your body language effects how you think and shapes who you are. Take a minute to examine your posture right now and note what you’re doing. Often times, our posture releases physical cues that intend to make ourselves smaller. Your knees are curled up to your chest. Your arms wrapped around your legs. Folded arms. Touching your neck. And hunching over.
Our non-verbal cues are the most effective with communicating with other people. Your posture, gestures, and body languages effect how other people perceive you and define how they act around you.Not only are other people influenced by your non-verbal communication, but we ourselves are influenced by our own body language. Non verbal expressions of power and dominance are about expanding - making yourself big, opening up and taking up space- this is true all across the animal kingdom. We all do this when we want to assert dominance and also when we are currently feeling dominant. These expressions of dominance are universal. Pride and power is shown with arms upon towards the sky in a V shape and your chin up. And the opposite, when you’re feeling powerless is you close up, you wrap your arms around yourself to make yourself smaller; Both animals and humans do the same.When you put high and low power people together, we complement the other person’s non-verbals. So if the other person is being powerful, we don’t mirror them, we make ourselves smaller. (There’s an obvious gender trend here, but I wont go into that).Our non-verbals govern how other people think and feel about us, but our non-verbals also govern how we think and feel about ourselves.When it comes to power, it goes both ways. When you feel powerful, you’re more likely to put your hands on your hips, but also when you pretend to be powerful, you’re more likely to actually feel powerful. We know “our minds change our bodies” but its also true that “our bodies change our minds.” And when i say minds, I’m talking, thoughts, feelings, and hormones that make up this powerful feeling.So powerful people tend to be more confident and assertive, more optimistic like they’re gonna win in games of chance: gambling. They also tend to be able to think more abstractly, they take risks. Physiologically, they also show higher levels of testosterone (dominance) and low levels of cortisol (fear).In the primate kingdom, if a primate has to take on an alpha role suddenly, within a few days, that primates testosterone goes up significantly and his cortisol goes down.So the big question is “Can you fake it till you make it?” But we don’t want to fake it and revert to feeling inadequate when we actually make it. We want to know if we can “Fake it till you become it” and actually experience a behavioral outcome that makes us powerful.There was an experiment where people adopted 2 minutes of either a “high power” or “low power” pose :And then afterwards, the participants are given an opportunity to gamble. The participants also take a saliva test that measures testosterone and cortisol levels, and the results do show our non-verbal postures govern how we think and feel about ourselves.Role changes can shape the mind. So if you take a role change, if you take this tiny intervention, these minor changes for 2 minutes a day. If I were to tell you to stand with your hands on your hips for 2 minutes a day, or go stand in the bathroom with your head up and your arms open to the sky, you would feel significantly more confident and powerful.So here’s my advice. You can change.Our bodies change our minds and our minds change our behavior, and our behavior changes out outcomes. And this is where people will say “it feels fake” like you don’t want to get there and still feel like a fraud, you don’t want to get there and afterward feel like you’re not supposed to be there. But you just keep doing it, repitition, force yourself through it until eventually it comes naturally, like you’re following motions of habit, and then one day you’ll find yourself not faking it. You become it.Tiny tweaks can lead to big changes. When you walk through a crowd, stop staring at the ground. Keep your eyes straight ahead, neck tall, and chin up. ff you’re feeling small today I dare you to sit up straighter, look someone who scares you directly in the eye, take up room at the dinner table, make yourself bigger, when ‘sorry’ laps at the back of your tongue, tries to pick up after you, remind yourself that your existence doesn’t demand an apology, that you are allowed to make mess and take up space, do not be afraid to expand. Every single goddamn minute. Expand, expand, expand.Act like that self-confident arrogant cold-hearted bitch that runs the show. Act like you don’t care about what other people think about you. Act like you’re a self-obsessed piece of shit. Act like that fictional character that you idolize. Act the way you want to be and eventually you’ll become it..Even if you don’t actually genuinely love yourself, act like you think you’re the human embodiment of perfection. Go on try it. Life’s too short to not fall in love with yourself.
THANK YOU, GRACE